Saturday, January 09, 2010

the bachelor finds cambodia

so let me catch yall up to speed real quick on this one: the bachelor's new season just started (and although i don't watch it, luckily i have friends that do; because i would've missed this one!) well, apparently a cambodian woman was selected as one of the girls for this particular bachelor to choose from.

so to set up this clip below, i'll explain a little more: what i've heard is that when she exited the limo to meet the bachelor for the first time (and he is an airplane pilot by profession apparently,) she said something to him in khmer (cambodian). after the bachelor told her, "that sounds beautiful," he asked her its meaning, to which she responded, "i will tell you later - in private!" (the tension builds!)

so view the clip below - this is their private meeting...

ok, now onto the real discussion - the youtube comments on the clip. my favorites are from alexee below. apparently she couldn't just comment once. she commented once, waited an hour, commented again, waited another hour, and again and then again! see below in italics.

She brought shame to Khmer culture. Khmer women are talking like that on a national TV, especially to a guy who just met. Secondly she has made Khmer women look bad. It looks like the guy did not want to hold her hands until she asked him to. You have brought to Khmer women, to Asian women.
alexee2007 (15 hours ago)

She brought shame to our culture. You don't say this to a guy who just met. You can tease when you have dated for a while. You make us Khmer girls look bad. Thanks for disgracing Khmer people you moron.
alexee2007 (18 hours ago)

Wow, we are famous now for selling our soul. What's a disgrace that she has brought to Khmer people. What has she done to to our culture. It makes us khmer women look cheap and desperate.
alexee2007 (19 hours ago)

She brought shame to our culture. We are poor and now it shows we are poor in term of morality. You have not done anything good for the khmer people, but at least try not shame us. You went on the show on the national TV and would say something like. It makes you look so easy and trashy. You have brought shame to our culture. (19 hours ago)

really? shame to cambodian culture??? what?

so this is my question: how does one woman on a trash reality tv show bring shame to a whole country or people? can we really base our judgements about cambodia on this one woman? what about all the white american women on that same show? do they bring shame to white people everywhere? (or just shame to themselves and whatever man or woman that may still call them daughter?) if there is anyone is america that obtains a negative opinion of cambodian women or culture based on channy (who, by the way, got voted off of the first episode,) then that person is ignorant and doesn't even get a seat at the proverbial table for this discussion. so don't sweat it. white women on reality tv have been making trashy comments for years, and white america seems to be ticking on in its self-assured, arrogant and ignorant way.

by the way, can anyone tell me what channy is really saying? is she really saying landing strip? wow.



Why don't you try out for this show? I've never watched it but would if you were on it!!! :o)

D said...

From a person who identifies with my culture, I can see why others would view this girl's actions as a disgraces to her culture and country. For a country as unpopular/little known as Cambodia, I would think the people would want to someone to make/promote their country as in a positive and wholesome light. I can maybe see that she was trying to make the situation humorous, but apparently she came on too strong for the bachelor and for some of her fellow Cambodians.

mscinda said...

Funny post, I didn't bother to watch the video clip since I don't speak khmer. But the youtube comments from alexee2007(well the frequency of them) were amusing.

I can't judge her feeling that way since I get offended when I see how other Asians behave in shopping lots. Just go to any Asian market and see how many shopping carts you see NOT in the shopping corrals. And don't even get me started on the number of drivers that don't follow arrows that show the correct flow of traffic in the parking lots. If I were white, I would be thinking these Asians are lazy and can't drive. Embarrassing. :(

Katie said...

Ok, I actually watched that episode. When she used her language as a flirty gimmick, and it only made her look dumb, it made me sad. Many of the girls were doing similar stupid, gimmicky things to exploit their sexuality, but c'mon, when you are the only Asian American woman on the show, and you pull that kind of stunt... it just feeds into the asian-fetish mentality.

jrm said...

everything yall said is true... (and even as a wrote this post, i was already thinking it.)

i just remember when the virginia tech shootings happened and the korean american legislator publicly apologized on behalf of korean americans... and i was there thinking, why didn't a white american legislator stand up and apologize for erik and dylan?

unfortunately, we are not yet in a world where individual people of color are not seen as a representation of themselves rather than their whole community.